Our Bride Next Door has been busy planning her dream wedding. With her planning timeline halfway done, we wanted to check in on where she’s at and what advice she has so far to newly engaged ladies.
1. What major items have you knocked off your checklist that left you with a “Phewww!” moment?
So far, we have the DJ (DJ Craig G, what whaaaat), the photographer (Rhymes with Sky), I got my dress at Everthine and have decided on the company who will print our invitations and paper goods. It feels so good to have the big things out of the way and the deposits paid but it also feels like those were the easy things. Now its the little details we are focusing on, which take a lot more brain power. And finalizing the guest list haha!
2. Do you have a theme? What vendors are you looking into?
If I had to put our wedding in a box, i’d call it Boho Chic. A mix of Boho Chic and Thrifty haha. I am trying to keep the cost down while still getting the vibe I want. Everyone who knows me know I am all over the place though, so theme has been a real challenge for me. One day I love boho, the next day I’m in Fila and the next I’m glammed out. I need to find a way to create and Alyssa themed wedding. Boho dress, Puma sneakers and my black moonstone choker lol!
We began talking to a florist who I will hire. She has been very helpful because I am not creative and need some ideas!
3. What has you hung up on the guest list? Advice to newly engaged brides?
We have the guest list about 97% complete. I would say our biggest “issue” was the fact that we are having a Kid-Free wedding. We are also not handing out a lot of plus-ones. We realize this will cause a little push back and have experienced a little already. Honestly, there is one thing new brides need to just say over and over-like a mantra- IT IS YOUR DAY! It is no one else day. It is easy to lose sight of that when people have lots of opinions, or get angry about certain decisions you make but remember..it is coming out of your wallet (for us at least) and IT IS YOUR DAY! WOOSAH!
4. Save The Dates? Are you ready to make it “officially official”?
We finally decided on a design! This has been a challenge because I am not artsy and we don’t have a solid theme. We also didn’t want our picture on it. A lot goes into these- I need to have the guest list decided, I need to have an idea about the direction I want the wedding to go in a long time before the actual date. I can’t order ocean themed save the dates and decide to have a rustic themed wedding! It is just a lot. And to me, A big milestone. But design is done! All we need is the completed guest list! Next? Start collecting addresses..
Happy engagement season! We are so happy to see the smiling faces and shining rings of bride-to-be’s popping up on our social media. We know the feeling! You want to shout your wedding date from the mountain tops! Hold on, you need a date first before sending out any mail! Our last blog gave some pointers and questions to ask yourself when creating your guest list. Once you have your invitee list ready to go, it’s time to get your wedding date on their calendar. You do have a date, right?
Choosing a wedding date seems as simple as choosing a day, but factors such as your venue, budget, and even attendee availability can change when you get married. We start looking at venues right away with our brides. Especially if they have specific requirements, or places in mind, it’s best to tour and ask questions.
What season are you looking to get married?
Are you set on a weekend or can you be flexible?
Will you require any special accommodations of your venue?
Your budget will thank you if you’re flexible. Many venues will offer a discount or additional options in their package if you look to book on a date that is not as high demand. Sundays, weekdays, and the off season can offer more bang for your buck because the venues are looking to fill up their calendar. Also consider your guests’ attendance. Many people are invited to several weddings in any given year and could have to pick and choose if the dates are too close together. Don’t be afraid to set your date apart and choose the beautiful, crisp Autumn, or even get married on a Thursday!
Send out your save the dates knowing not everyone can attend. You’ll follow the same etiquette for your invites but have better feedback on the date during the first round. A Save The Date is intended to lock in this detail. But you don’t have to have everything decided when sending them out. They can be less formal than an invitation and very simple with just your name and the wedding date, of course. If you haven’t chosen a theme yet, keep it clean and choose one color you know you’ll be incorporating into your big day as an accent.
Save the dates have become popular as an announcement, as well as to ensure guests have enough time to pencil in that day and start making any arrangements. Keep in touch with friends and family by creating a wedding website of your current information. Formal invitations will include details such as plus ones, the location, and require an RSVP. Make sure you are maintaining the same etiquette starting with the first piece of mail. Always list all guest names on the envelope to avoid confusion. Loop back to our invitation etiquette blog for some more information on this topic.
Until next time, happy planning!
1: Photo: Ryon Lockhart Photography